A Contemplation on Relationships

When I say that I have been single for five years I normally get shocked reactions. But you see I have never felt a need to lay claim to a specific human being although many feel it is necessary to place one on me. So yes, I have been single or sans claim for five years, but within those five years I have experienced some of the most fulfilling, exciting, and beautiful relationships of my life thus far. People have told me to my face that there has to be some sort of clarification that you are in an exclusive relationship but in reality, if someone is going to fuck someone else behind your back, unfortunately, they are going to do it regardless of what whimsy claim you have on them. If someone wants to sleep with you exclusively then they will do it no matter what. You see, saying that someone is your boyfriend or girlfriend just creates an illusion of security. The illusion of security often times makes us feel that we can place our trust in a person but it comes without a foundation for that trust to truly grow. A simple analogy of this is tiling a garden but not planting any seeds in it and then expecting to get green beans or corn for dinner. All you really get are weeds because they were the only things willing to sow the earth. So what I'm getting at is that relationships are an organic process so when I say, which I often do, "I'm not looking for a relationship", it means that I'm really not because you don't make relationships happen, you participate in creating them. Just like when you are planting a garden, sure you might put the seeds in the ground but you don't make it rain when you want or the sun shine when you want or the ground to be fertile when you want. When it comes down to it, people that feel it is important to lay claim to someone are really just jumping the gun. Only one other person has understood this and maybe more will grow to understand it as well.