The Table

Skipping all the details I will go straight to the gist of the subject: How do you get someone that you really pissed off back into your life? I like to phrase this question in political science babble so to me it reads, "How do you get an uncompliant nation to come to the table of diplomacy?" First: One must determine how much the other person was hurt or pissed off. To do this, you must think about what exactly you did to start the conflict. Now, take those actions and take them out of the romantic context and place them in a friendship context. You have to think, "If my best friend in the world did the same thing to me that I did to them, would I be hurt?" If the answer to this question is yes then you have to determine how hurt you would be. If you are unsure of how you would feel then you really should not even bother trying to reconcile because you have no social conscience. Second: Once the level of hurt or anger is determined you must plan your tactic according to this level. If you feel that you would have been really hurt or pissed off if you were in their shoes then you must be in this for the LONG HAUL. You will not be able to the get to the table of diplomacy by just showing up one day and acting nice. Your approach must be slow and unheard, like that of the stalking tiger. Visibility will have to be your first step. The more they see you, the more they will except the fact that no matter how much they had wished you had fallen off the face of the earth, you are still around. Once you have been noticed, DO NOT just jump back into the swing of things, keep your exposure time low and steadily increase it. If this fails then just know that what you did should NEVER be done again, learn your lesson and move on. If you feel that you would not have been hurt or pissed off by the scenario then swallow your pride and put those balls to the wall and just make an effort to see how they are doing and if future plans (maybe even sporadic ones) can be made together. Hell, if you feel that you know that person enough, get them something that they will appreciate, but avoid flowers, cards, and jewelry because that is too mushy. Generally, although many of us would deny it, most of us work under the assumption that if someone does not talk to you or does not call after a falling out then that someone knows in their heart that they did something wrong to you and they re too yellow bellied to fix their mistakes. At least, that is how I feel. So my little chickadees I hope you garner some helpful information from this little rant and best wishes for your diplomatic explorations and if you fail, just remember that Ricky Skaggs song You May See Me Walkin' and know that you are doomed because of country music.